When you’re in a long distance sistership!

Long distance sistsership is like that pain you feel when you sit in a plane and are about to leave your hometown, that sinking feeling you experience.

Here is a list of things that happen when you’re in LDS:

Time zone:

When you want to speak to her about the awesome dress you bought that makes you look a lot skinnier than you are, but you’re not sure if it’s alright to wake her up. But yes, you do it anyway!

Holidays:

When it’s the holiday season and everyone is with their families and you’re not. You do everything in your power to be virtually present. Thank you, Skype, Facetime, Facebook message and technology overall!!

Stalking:

Facebook, instagram, twitter, everything else stalking them so you know what they are doing and who their friends are, ’cause you have FOMO(fear of missing out).

Getting updates on family gossip:

They update you on family gossip. One of the many things you miss when you’re away. Don’t pretend like you are above that, we all love our share of family gossip.

Ugly Parent pictures:

When you tell them you miss your parents, and they send you an ugly selfie your mom tried to take with her phone.

Reminders:

You both remind each other of different events like, not forgetting mom’s birthday, getting a father’s day present for dad and posting statuses when something good happens in the family to show your public appreciation, even though you’re not there, but I mean this is how it works, ’cause what’s life without some PDA (public display of affection).

Your wardrobe:

..is not yours anymore. You grit your teeth when you are on Facetime and you see them rock your clothes. That feeling. That feeling of hatred, betrayal, invasion of privacy of your clothes. Sighhh. But you love them, so you let it go and buy more things. 🙂

Depression

In a lot of ways, my life is perfect. Nevertheless, a part of me is always depressed. It’s a feeling that can’t be explained. It makes you distant from people and it makes you second guess everything you do on a daily basis. However, it’s not something that you can’t overcome. Yes, it’s just a phase like everything else in your life everyone goes through at least once in their life and if they are strong enough, they don’t let it sink into their skin.

How I have embraced my sadness:

  1. Let it out: Depression makes you feel like no one cares enough about you or rather you’re not worth anyone’s time. Which in today’s world is a known fact, yet your family can be your biggest support system. If you’re depressed, talk to your family or friends anyone you can fully trust and let out the anxiety. Don’t let those feelings, bury inside like old grudges, ’cause they don’t do you no good.
  2. Positivity: It might sound like a cliche, but you need to look at the positive things in life. Yes, your day went horrible and you lost your job or something major happened, but you need to count the positive things. You survived, you woke up, you got to see the sunrise or sunset, you were fortunate enough to get food. There is always something to be thankful for.
  3. It takes its sweet time: Usually when someone is depressed they want to move away from it as soon as possible, but It takes time to shift the curve. Don’t get mad at yourself for being upset or sad, embrace your darkness. You won’t always be happy in life, there’ll be times when queer thoughts will creep in but know that it’s only temporary.
  4. Things change: Once you go through that dark side, prepare yourself for some massive change. Nothing remains the same anymore. Everything changes, you either take your life seriously or you start living it to the fullest. Things that used to make you laugh, don’t make you laugh anymore. Things that intrigued you don’t seem to interest you anymore. It can be good or it can be bad, depending on who you’re.
  5. Feel your emotions: When your heart breaks into million pieces only then do you feel like a full functioning human. How would you know you’re truly happy if you have never experienced sadness? Sadness can be a blessing as well as a curse. People have made the primary purpose of their life to need/want/get/achieve. However, sometimes, sadness can spark a new purpose or meaning.

How working a job helps you

I started my first job when I was 17 years old. I was naive and didn’t know how the workplace politics worked. My first experience wasn’t as good as I had expected it to be. However, it taught me several things that molded me into the person I am right now. Here’s why you should work at least once in your life.

Confidence:

High school doesn’t teach you how to deal with cruel personalities, no one teaches you that. You learn that from experience. When I started working I felt so out of place and never said a word, even when I was taken for granted. Eventually, I learned to stand up for myself and it gave me confidence that I cherish.

Cash flow management:

Trust me, it helps you a lot with money management. At first you don’t know what to do with that money. It’s fine. I blew mine on bags and shoes. But eventually I started saving that money. I don’t have millions right now, but if I had the opportunity to invest it, I would have and who knows might have been a millionaire by now. Invest it or save it!

Time Management:

If you’re in college, I suggest you find an internship and start working. It puts a lot on your plate and you learn to manage your time wisely. You set your priorities, make time for what’s important and what’s well.. not that important. It’s better to get a hold of time management skills while still in college rather than trying to figure it out while you start your first job post college.

Puts you ahead of competition:

A work experience on your resume stands you out. Employers are looking for people who know their way around an office. If you have got some work experience on that resume, you are already ahead of those 30 other people who applied for the same job as you did. When I started university, it made my life so easier because I could get a job easily only because my professors and the hiring committee knew I had prior work experience in a variety of fields.

 

To wear makeup or to ditch makeup in Ramadan

 Since Ramadan is just around the corner, which means no eating during the day, no gossiping, no calling names and no eating, did I say no eating before? But with that, women also wonder if they should or shouldn’t wear makeup. Make up is empowering. People wear it for different reasons. I wear it because it makes me feel pretty and boosts my confidence.

As someone who admires her daily dose of makeup, I think makeup in Ramadan should be kept to minimal. When you let your body breathe for a month, you should let your face breathe too.

Now the real question is how do I do my wudhu (ablution) with makeup on and still manage to pray? Well, the trick is to do your wudhu before you put on makeup, but if you’re like me you’re highly likely to forget to do your wudhu.

So, instead of going all Kim K and putting 10 layers of makeup, ditch the foundation for a BB/CC cream, instead of using three different mascaras for one that is your favorite for your eyes to pop and a little blush. These three items can be easily washed off and reapplied. Therefore, wudhu can be accepted and you can go on with your prayers.

Ramadan as we all know is the month to purify our souls, minds and bodies. It’s the month of forgiveness and growing closer to Allah, so refrain from talking bad about others and stay pretty!!

Clothing Items every woman needs in her closet!

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This post basically talks about important clothing items every woman needs in her closet. I go by the rule of buying once and buying good. Spend your money like you’re investing. Let’s say you spend 100$ on a pair of leather jacket which will last you longer because it’s of good quality rather than buying a jacket that costs about 20$ and will most definitely tear after a few wears.

My clothing essentials:

1) Leather Jacket ( obviously):

This one goes without saying, you can style it with basically everything and it looks so DAMN HOT!! Whether you’re going for a casual, street or a sexy look. Every woman should own a good leather jacket.

Tip: Make sure it’s well fitted. DO NOT buy “M” if you’re clearly “S” or vice versa. Don’t buy the first one you see, try on a few different jackets before you pay for the one…

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28 Quotes For When You Start To Doubt Yourself

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  1. It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about. – Dale Carnegie
  2. Don’t feel stupid if you don’t like what everyone else pretends to love. – Emma Watson
  3. Two roads diverged in a wood and I, I took the one less traveled by and that has made all the difference – Robert Frost
  4. What we have to remember is that we can still do anything. We can change our minds. We can start over. Get a post-bac or try writing for the first time. The notion that it’s too late to do anything is comical. – Marina Keegan
  5. Failure is a stripping away of the inessential. – J.K. Rowling
  6. The struggles make you stronger, and the changes make you wise; happiness has its own way of taking its…

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An Insight To A Sensitive Person’s World

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Sensitive people are the most genuine and honest people you will ever meet. There is nothing they won’t tell you about themselves if they trust your kindness. However, the moment you betray them, reject them or devalue them, they will end the friendship. They live with guilt and constant pain over unresolved situations and misunderstandings. They are tortured souls that are not able to live with hatred or being hated. This type of person needs the most love anyone can give them because their soul has been constantly bruised by others. However, despite the tragedy of what they have to go through in life, they remain the most compassionate people worth knowing and the ones that often become activists for the broken-hearted, forgotten and the misunderstood. They are angels with broken wings that only fly when loved. — Shannon L. Alder

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A New Start Is Just A Thought Away

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Today is the day that you become the person that you were always meant to be. That can’t happen if you have baggage. Leave the past. You have a chance to restart, and all you have to do is forget all the bad things that you did, all the things that has happened to you, and just move forward. — Unknown

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Around the World in Nine Photos

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Do you love stories from around the world? Check out the work of the following nine photographers on WordPress.com and allow your imagination to take you away…

Nathanael‘s monochrome photo of the Star Lite Motel in Mt. Airy, North Carolina, conjures images of wayward romances and clandestine meetings. We loved the marquee’s message, “Forgive and forget its human to err.” (sic) which offers an almost haunting absolution. For more of Nathanael’s work, check out his blog, G’Nat’s Eye View.

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The image below, by UK photographer Andy Hooker, had us at hello. We love how the sign matches the woman’s red coat and how her right leg is in crisp focus just as her stride reaches the “h” above her head. Check out more of Andy’s work at LensScaper.

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