Depression

In a lot of ways, my life is perfect. Nevertheless, a part of me is always depressed. It’s a feeling that can’t be explained. It makes you distant from people and it makes you second guess everything you do on a daily basis. However, it’s not something that you can’t overcome. Yes, it’s just a phase like everything else in your life everyone goes through at least once in their life and if they are strong enough, they don’t let it sink into their skin.

How I have embraced my sadness:

  1. Let it out: Depression makes you feel like no one cares enough about you or rather you’re not worth anyone’s time. Which in today’s world is a known fact, yet your family can be your biggest support system. If you’re depressed, talk to your family or friends anyone you can fully trust and let out the anxiety. Don’t let those feelings, bury inside like old grudges, ’cause they don’t do you no good.
  2. Positivity: It might sound like a cliche, but you need to look at the positive things in life. Yes, your day went horrible and you lost your job or something major happened, but you need to count the positive things. You survived, you woke up, you got to see the sunrise or sunset, you were fortunate enough to get food. There is always something to be thankful for.
  3. It takes its sweet time: Usually when someone is depressed they want to move away from it as soon as possible, but It takes time to shift the curve. Don’t get mad at yourself for being upset or sad, embrace your darkness. You won’t always be happy in life, there’ll be times when queer thoughts will creep in but know that it’s only temporary.
  4. Things change: Once you go through that dark side, prepare yourself for some massive change. Nothing remains the same anymore. Everything changes, you either take your life seriously or you start living it to the fullest. Things that used to make you laugh, don’t make you laugh anymore. Things that intrigued you don’t seem to interest you anymore. It can be good or it can be bad, depending on who you’re.
  5. Feel your emotions: When your heart breaks into million pieces only then do you feel like a full functioning human. How would you know you’re truly happy if you have never experienced sadness? Sadness can be a blessing as well as a curse. People have made the primary purpose of their life to need/want/get/achieve. However, sometimes, sadness can spark a new purpose or meaning.
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How To Survive Airports

I love planes and flying and traveling and learning about cultures and just pushing my limits, but as much I love that, I HATE EVERYTHING about airports i-e immigration, thefts, transits, and germs. A lot of germs, all kinds of germs.

I was travelling recently and thought why not share my Airport survival tips with the world, or whoever reads my blog. :p

1) Travel Pillows

I don’t understand people who don’t carry a travel pillow with them. I find it so comforting. it’s already hard to fall asleep on those germ-filled-uncomfortable airplane chairs, why would you distress yourself more by trying to rest your head on your shoulder ? Or perhaps the person next to you.

Some time ago, a man fell asleep on my shoulder. Since he was pretty old, i didn’t mind.

I am already pretty uneasy, now a stranger wants to get too close ? HELLO HEARD OF PRIVATE SPACE!

Lifestyle-shot---travel-pilhttp://www.independent.co.uk/extras/indybest/travel/smooth-journey-10-best-travel-pillows-9340571.html2) Dress Appropriately

2) DRESS APPROPRIATELY

Whether your flight is 40 mins or 24 hours, please wear something appropriate. Don’t wear too many accessories or clothes with studs or metallic detailing. There are people who have had little to no sleep and they just want to get done with this airport hassle and rest.

Also wearing heels at airports is hella irritating( not to you, but to other people). Keep those babies in your bag and wear flip-flops or something comfortable. No one wants to hear the clunk your heels are making.

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Learn from the best ^

3)STINKY POO!

People really need to shower before they get on a flight. You might think you’re wasting water, but actually you’re saving a lot of humans, if you just wash yourself.

For this purpose, I always keep a body splash or deodorant with me. I sometimes spray my perfume on the person sitting next to me too, when they are sleeping. 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

Go with H&m, M&S or Sephora sprays, perfumes, body splash. They smell brilliant and are cheap!

http://www.hm.com/gb/product/25154?article=25154-A

http://www.marksandspencer.com/l/beauty/fragrance/womens-perfume

#sharingiscaringtheysay 🙂

4) Sneaky Airport Thieves ( YOU LITTLE BUGGERS) 

Airport theft is very common. Most of the time you don’t find your stuff, unless you’re lucky because well.. I think nobody really cares. So, either I am always very careful or keep extra’s of everything. Keep an extra copy of ticket, passport, all important contacts and extra money in pants, socks or bra. Yep. People do that.

5) YUMMY YUMMY IN MY TUMMY TUMMY!

Airport food can be expensive and yucky. What I do is that I always keep granola bars, chocolate, peanuts or small snacks like that in my hand carry. You never know when you might get hungry. What if you’re at the immigration, there is a long queue and feel hungry ? You can take out your snack and munch on it. 🙂

#nomnomnomnom

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http://showiteer.com/lifestyle/travel/9-easy-snacks-to-take-through-airport-security-without-getting-arrested/

http://www.self.com/wellness/travel/2013/02/airport-snacks-slideshow/

6) Delayed flights or missing flights 

Weather is unpredictable and your flight can get delayed anytime. Or you’re lazypants like me and have missed your flight way too many times. Missing your flight is no fun, especially if it’s an international flight. I like to keep things that can entertain me in my hand carry.

These are my hand carry essentials:

  • Headphones
  • Portable charger
  • Music GOOD MUSIC
  • A book
  • Coloring book or scribble
  • Ipad or computer
  • Sweat pants, if you’re wearing jeans
  • Toothbrush and toothpaste or breath mints
  • A body splash or deodorant
  • A face cream and HAND SANITIZER!!
  • Lip balm
  • Pads and tampons (if you’re a woman)
  • an extra pair of underwear ( or you can just flip them over. No don’t do that) 😐
  • Hair ties ( always great to keep extra)

7) Luggage Tags

Incase you lose your luggage, it’s always good to clip a luggage tag to your luggage with your permanent address on it. If someone finds it, they might send it or the airport definitely will.

Always be prepared, they say. 😉

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http://www.amazon.com/luggage-bag-tags/b?node=1234358011

8) Be Prepared:

When you know you have a long transit, google the airport before going so you know if there is a lounge of some sort where you can rest instead of walking for 2 hours looking for one.

I once had a 5 hour transit somewhere and I spent 4 hours looking for the lounge. Needless to say, it wasn’t so useful after that.

9) Web check-in!

I hate long queues, so i always web check-in. Some airlines don’t have that option, but if yours does YOU SHOULD DEFINITELY DO THAT, instead of waiting in the line for 2 hours and going to the airport 3 hours earlier.

-Thank you for reading, share your tips!! 🙂

working in saudi arabia as an expat girl

You land your first job and you’re very excited. A night before you start new work, you’re wondering how everyone will be like, what kind of work will you be assigned, 3adi thoughts, you know.

It’s the first day of your job, and you are just anxious and in deep insecurity/inferiority complex because every girl who works here looks so.. flawless. Anyway, you hope these artificial beauties will have at least a nice personality. Then you’ll be disappointed when the HR person won’t even introduce you to the whole team, which will make your day even more.. AWKWARD. Eventually, you will have to build up some courage and go talk to people, which will be a DIFFICULT task. If you speak english, good english, you will start making grammatical mistakes and you will start adding arabic slangs. Everyone who works there will speak in Arabic making you feel like an outcast. At some point, you will feel like secretly learning arabic and eve’s dropping to see if they talk about you or not ?

This experience will open you up to so many different cultures and ideas, you will learn about how Saudis hate their own country and its working system, how these flawless beauties will go to any extend to look flawless, how an uneducated person with ONLY training will earn the same amount of money as you with your master’s or bachelor’s, based on the fact that they are Saudis. Yet they hate their country ?!!

I have worked since the age of 17, I have had quite an experience. Recently, I was working with the accounting department of this “big shot” hospital. When I got the call, I was very excited and thought I would learn a lot from this. I couldn’t be more wrong. My first day I realised how I was the ONLY girl. Two weeks later, I got a surprise when another girl covered from head to toe shows up. Her first day, and she is already complaining to me about why I am wearing nail paint ?  The past two weeks, I mastered sleeping with my eyes open because NO ONE SPOKE ENGLISH or to me for that matter. Anyway, in case anyone is wondering, I left the job in 3 weeks.

If you’re young and you decide to work in a School, DON’T.Just don’t. I was stupid and thought to myself why waste time when I can work somewhere and earn some faloos. One reputable school offered to take me as an activity coordinator. My first day, and my boss doesn’t show up. The next day, they tell me they need a teacher for a week so I will be teaching a class of 20 boys. I hate kids, I was thinking to myself but kept quiet. That one week turned to 2 months, every day I would dread going to work. Those kids were bunch of rich brats, who had no respect for elders. One day, I lost my temper and cussed at a kid. To my defence, I wasn’t really asked if I wanted to work as a teacher and my job description was totally different from the work I was doing. I was only 17, and the things I heard and saw really shocked me. Saudi teachers are rebellious! They would come to work high. They were so good that no one ever suspected them but i think no one cared enough to catch them. Some of the teachers were so bored with their lives, they would tell me how the management was sucky and the only reason why they were working was because there is nothing to do in Saudi Arabia. I was disturbed for a while, because these teachers were making our tomorrow and frankly they weren’t doing a really good job. I lasted no more than 3 months there.

I worked in other places as well, and the only thing that i learned was that no one will ever give you full information. So you need to go and ask, ask ask ask ask!

Another workforce rule just crossed my mind: Segregation! 

Yes, segregation at workforce. Sorry, guys, you can’t have lunch with us or be in the same room as us. It’s too hard for Haya’a ( Islamic police) to swallow. They can LOOK at us and tell us to wear our headscarf and stand 2 steps away from us, and it won’t be 7aram then, but if someone else does it they will make sure to humiliate the woman and warn the man. If you are a newbie, you might want to get used to frequent raids. Haya’a likes to show up, unannounced, every now and then to make sure there aren’t more expats than Saudis and that women aren’t mixing with men.

Working in Saudi Arabia can be very difficult and the way they treat expats in the country is depressing. Now that they are trying to get rid of us, I wouldn’t recommend anyone to work here. You will be treated like trash and you will be taken for granted.

#RichKidsOfSaudiArabia

Dear Rich Kids,

explain to me if you get it ?

Is it my fault that I wasn’t born in a financially privileged family ? or that my dad doesn’t own a few buildings or kisses the Royal family’s ass every chance he gets ? Or that he doesn’t have expats under his sponsorship and basically rips them off ?

Is it my fault that I am a 20 year young girl living in Saudi Arabia and weren’t given an opportunity to attend an Ivy league University or went to a well recognised high school ? BUT I BET, YOU DID!

Then whenever I am given a chance to interact with a “RICH SAUDI KID”, why am I always left thinking so much better about my upbringing. Presumably, you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth, which means you’re expected to act civilised and not disrespect other people. I mean, isn’t it what your religion is all about? Be nice to your fellowmen, even if they don’t belong to the same class as you.

Let me share what happened to me today, despite the fact that this isn’t that big of an incident compared to other occasions where I was left feeling pathetic about being a non-saudi, a girl and POOR!

So my sister and I were walking towards Jeddah Mall on Ta7lia from Khayat Centre, It’s the Rodeo Drive of Jeddah, Saudi Arabia, elite class of Jeddah comes here often in their fancy cars. The distance is not really that much, if you’re walking from D&G store. So anyway, these two “rich saudi kids” in a Mercedes which I believe their rich Daddy bought them for probably failing an exam, started flashing their headlights on us, even though we were half way towards the mall gate, like that wasn’t enough to divert every person’s attention on us, they yelled “fuck you” at us. Hence, this letter/blog. Explain to me, rich kids, what kind of decency is that ?

If you’re a son/daughter of a very well off family and your Grandfather owns half of Jeddah/Riyadh/khobar whatever! then aren’t you suppose to act a certain way. Family values are what parents teach you, and they are like a mirror, the reflection they give is what children adopt. So by acting like a notorious bastard, are you telling us (expats) that this is what your parents have taught you ? ’cause it sure looks like it!

Don’t get this the wrong way, I don’t have a problem with you bring rich. I have a problem with you treating people with lower status than yours like plain shit. Trust me, I love watching y’all take your latest addition Chanel/ LV bag or your custom design accessories or a new car out to show-off. Who would mind watching a free runway show ? Only the runway is usually the mall, restaurants or those illegal parties with booze that your Hayaa (islamic police. Yes, it exists)seems to ignore, because y’all rich people will probably have their asses locked up if they try to complain. And the brave ones who actually do file a complain or try to “annoy” you with their annoying faces you probably get them executed or offer a glass of red vine (bribe) to them ?

I don’t live on the money that you have provided me, however, you on the other hand do (sponsor fee that we pay every year and which drastically increases if the sponsor has to go on a vacation or if someone from his family wants to buy something “FANCY”). Mostly in other countries it’s Tax, but in Saudi Arabia it’s the money you pay your sponsor every year. The amount is decided by the sponsor. He can ask for how much ever he wants. You cannot complain to the authorise, because they will probably tell you to go back to your country. Now you may say, then why don’t we go back our country? Believe you me, no one wants to stay in this DISCRIMINATIVE-JUDGMENTAL-DESPOTIC-OPPRESSIVE country anyway. It’s our misfortune or compulsion. Besides, if we leave then who’s going to work and actually build this piece of shit country of yours. You CANNOT work as a minority, because GOD FORBIDS it will bring shame to your ego and what will your friends say when they hear that you have been working as an intern or a driver or a SWEEPER!

I’d love to see that happen tho’.

In drawing things to a close, I’d like to request to the rich kids of SAUDI ARABIA to not be impolite/rude to people who are not rich. We may not have as much as you do, but what we do have is RESPECT. We may not have expensive education like you do, but we do have good enough education to know what is right and what isn’t.

TRUST ME, Which is far more than the MONEY that you are so proud of.

Lastly, GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER, ASSHOLES!