6 rules to know before going to an Arab Wedding!!

All you need to know about before going to an arab wedding.

1: DON’T BE PUNCTUAL

if the wedding invite says to be there by 10, leave the house at Midnight. Even that’ll be too early.

2: Eat your dinner:

You’ll be served breakfast, so you might want to have something before you leave.

3: PUT 30lbs. OF MAKE UP

if you think you’re overdressed and putting more than necessary, you’re not! When you reach the ball room, you will see all types of people and mostly overly done relatives and friends.

4: Take pictures before going

your phones will be taken away.. sadly.

5: Be ready to PARTAY!

You will dance.. you will dance all night

6: Wear comfortable Heels

…because you will dance.

You’re welcome! ūüôā

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working in saudi arabia as an expat girl

You land your first job and you’re very excited. A night before you start new work, you’re wondering how everyone will be like, what kind of work will you be assigned, 3adi thoughts, you know.

It’s the first day of your job, and you are just anxious and in deep insecurity/inferiority complex because every girl who works here looks so.. flawless. Anyway, you hope these artificial beauties will have at least a nice personality. Then you’ll be disappointed when the HR person won’t even introduce you to the whole team, which will make your day even more.. AWKWARD. Eventually, you will have to build up some courage and go talk to people, which will be a DIFFICULT task. If you speak english, good english, you will start making grammatical mistakes and you will start adding arabic slangs. Everyone who works there will speak in Arabic making you feel like an outcast.¬†At some point, you will feel like secretly learning arabic and eve’s dropping to see if they talk about you or not ?

This experience will open you up to so many different cultures and ideas, you will learn about how Saudis hate their own country and its working system, how these flawless beauties will go to any extend to look flawless, how an uneducated person with ONLY training will earn the same amount of money as you with your master’s or bachelor’s, based on the fact that they are Saudis. Yet they hate their country ?!!

I have worked since the age of 17, I have had quite an experience. Recently, I¬†was working with the accounting department of this “big shot” hospital. When I got the call, I¬†was very excited and thought I¬†would learn a lot from this. I couldn’t be more wrong. My first day I realised how I¬†was the ONLY girl. Two weeks later, I¬†got a surprise when another girl covered from head to toe shows up. Her first day, and she is already complaining to me about why I¬†am wearing nail paint ? ¬†The past two weeks, I mastered sleeping with my eyes open because NO ONE SPOKE ENGLISH or to me for that matter. Anyway, in case anyone is wondering, I left the job in 3 weeks.

If you’re young and you decide to work in a School, DON’T.Just don’t. I was stupid and thought to myself why waste time when I can work somewhere and earn some faloos. One reputable¬†school offered to take me as an activity coordinator. My first day, and my boss doesn’t show up. The next day, they tell me they need a teacher for a week so I will be teaching a class of 20 boys. I hate kids, I¬†was thinking to myself but kept quiet. That one week turned to 2 months, every day I¬†would dread going to work. Those kids were bunch of rich brats, who had no respect for elders. One day, I¬†lost my temper and cussed at a kid. To my defence, I wasn’t really asked if I¬†wanted to work as a teacher and my job description was totally different from the work I¬†was doing. I was only 17, and the things I¬†heard and saw really shocked me. Saudi teachers are rebellious! They would come to work high. They were so good that no one ever suspected them but i think no one cared enough to catch them. Some of the teachers were so bored with their lives, they would tell me how the management was sucky and the only reason why they were working was because there is nothing to do in Saudi Arabia. I was disturbed for a while, because these teachers were making our tomorrow and frankly they weren’t doing a really good job. I lasted no more than 3 months there.

I worked in other places as well, and the only thing that i learned was that no one will ever give you full information. So you need to go and ask, ask ask ask ask!

Another workforce rule just crossed my mind: Segregation! 

Yes, segregation at workforce. Sorry, guys, you can’t have lunch with us or be in the same room as us. It’s too hard for Haya’a ( Islamic police) to swallow. They can LOOK at us and tell us to wear our headscarf and stand 2 steps away from us, and it won’t be 7aram then, but if someone else does it they will make sure to humiliate the woman and warn the man. If you are a newbie, you might want to get used to frequent raids. Haya’a likes to show up, unannounced, every now and then to make sure there aren’t more expats than Saudis and that women aren’t mixing with men.

Working in Saudi Arabia can be very difficult and the way they treat expats in the country is depressing. Now that they are trying to get rid of us, I wouldn’t recommend anyone to work here. You will be treated like trash and you will be taken for granted.

#RichKidsOfSaudiArabia

Dear Rich Kids,

explain to me if you get it ?

Is it my fault that I wasn’t born in a financially privileged family ? or that my dad doesn’t own a few buildings or kisses the Royal family’s ass every chance he gets ? Or that he doesn’t have expats under his sponsorship and basically rips them off ?

Is it my fault that I am a 20 year young girl living in Saudi Arabia and weren’t given an opportunity to attend an Ivy league University or went to a well recognised high school ? BUT I BET, YOU DID!

Then whenever I¬†am given a chance to interact with a “RICH SAUDI KID”, why am I¬†always left thinking so much better about my upbringing. Presumably, you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth, which means you’re expected to act civilised and not disrespect other people. I mean, isn’t it what your religion is all about? Be nice to your fellowmen, even if they don’t belong to the same class as you.

Let me share what happened to me today, despite the fact that this isn’t that big of an incident compared to other occasions where I¬†was left feeling pathetic about being a non-saudi, a girl and POOR!

So my sister and I were walking towards Jeddah Mall on Ta7lia from Khayat Centre, It’s the Rodeo Drive of Jeddah, Saudi Arabia, elite class of Jeddah comes here often in their fancy cars. The distance is not really that much, if you’re walking from D&G store. So anyway, these two “rich saudi kids” in a Mercedes which I believe their rich Daddy bought them for probably failing an exam, started flashing their headlights on us, even though we were half way towards the mall gate, like that wasn’t enough to divert every person’s attention on us, they yelled “fuck you” at us. Hence, this letter/blog. Explain to me, rich kids, what kind of decency is that ?

If you’re a son/daughter of a very well off family and your Grandfather owns half of Jeddah/Riyadh/khobar whatever! then aren’t you suppose to act a certain way. Family values are what parents teach you, and they are like a mirror, the reflection they give is what children adopt. So by acting like a notorious bastard, are you telling us (expats) that this is what your parents have taught you ? ’cause it sure looks like it!

Don’t get this the wrong way, I don’t have a problem with you bring rich. I have a problem with you treating people with lower status than yours like plain shit. Trust me, I love watching y’all take your latest addition Chanel/ LV bag or your custom design accessories or a new car out to show-off. Who would mind watching a free runway show ? Only the runway is usually the mall, restaurants or those illegal parties with booze that your Hayaa (islamic police. Yes, it exists)seems to ignore, because y’all rich people will probably have their asses locked up if they try to complain. And the brave ones who actually do file a complain or try to “annoy” you with their annoying faces you probably get them executed or offer a glass of red vine (bribe) to them ?

I don’t live on the money that you have provided me, however, you on the other hand do (sponsor fee that we pay every year and which drastically increases if the sponsor has to go on a vacation or if someone from his family wants to buy something “FANCY”). Mostly in other countries it’s Tax, but in Saudi Arabia it’s the money you pay your sponsor every year. The amount is decided by the sponsor. He can ask for how much ever he wants. You cannot complain to the authorise, because they will probably tell you to go back to your country. Now you may say, then why don’t we go back our country? Believe you me, no one wants to stay in this DISCRIMINATIVE-JUDGMENTAL-DESPOTIC-OPPRESSIVE country anyway. It’s our misfortune or compulsion. Besides, if we leave then who’s going to work and actually build this piece of shit country of yours. You CANNOT work as a minority, because GOD FORBIDS it will bring shame to your ego and what will your friends say when they hear that you have been working as an intern or a driver or a SWEEPER!

I’d love to see that happen tho’.

In drawing things to a close, I’d like to request to the rich kids of SAUDI ARABIA to not be impolite/rude to people who are not rich. We may not have as much as you do, but what we do have is RESPECT. We may not have expensive education like you do, but we do have good enough education to know what is right and what isn’t.

TRUST ME, Which is far more than the MONEY that you are so proud of.

Lastly, GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER, ASSHOLES!